We hang on when the pain of hanging on feels greater than the perceived pain of letting go. Sometimes, the pain of letting something go feels far greater than the pain of hanging on. So we hang on to the thing that, despite our deepest desire for it to be otherwise, is already done. A… Continue reading Letting Go, Acceptance and Surrender: Why it’s all so fucking difficult
Can we ever truly know if the story around the “majority consent” is even close to true when we cannot know how many people are consenting in the true sense of the word? If you knew how abuse works, in your bones, not in theory, you’d see the signs by now.
Having met you today was no accident. For a few days now (maybe at most a couple of weeks) I have felt like I must declutter (my physical space as a metaphor for my mind, also). I have taken on a lot, plus being a full-time mom to a two year old precious-breath-of-life boy. Your honest perspective on something as simple as my booth sparked this wave of energy moving that now feels a lot is being / will continue to be released and integrated. ... there's this metaphor of simplify that seems to be coming up for me. The drapes I'm adding to make things appear prettier may be distracting from the essence, the core of the thing I am presenting to the world.
Our governance is intentionally schizophrenic. The more unpredictable, the more last minute, the more they can keep us on our toes and walking on eggshells, the more legitimate we believe their lies to be because we live in a constant state of anxiety, unpredictability, uncertainty over what’s next. The whole point is, don’t get used to anything!
When we pretend they are the person they show the world to be, that makes us who know the truth of who they are, ladies and gentlemen, responsible for protecting the predator.
As a CODE Model Coach™, I am constantly in pursuit of my own evolution. Because of that, I trust that the people who come in my life are there as aspects of my consciousness to awaken me to a deeper layer of self-exploration yet unexplored. Recently, I found myself writing an email to a client.… Continue reading I am not a therapist: I am a CODE Model Coach™, and here’s how it’s different
It always, in all ways, starts with ME. There’s a lump in my throat as I type this, and the tears are just behind my eye lids…they don’t want to flow, they simply want to be there. There is an energetic ‘ball’ in my chest and my stomach feels activated. This is the information my… Continue reading What it takes to let go as a parent, and why we must!
Instead of teaching our children WHAT to think, let's teach them HOW to think! We have become really good at teaching (through modeling) the content of our culture to our children. Be polite and say thanks, even if you don't mean it. Otherwise, to speak the truth of your experience (not-thankful) is to be considered rude. So... we teach our children to be insincere and live in contradictory internal states so they don't offend another. We teach them to be dishonest so they can manage an external appearance labeled "polite" and "good". We teach them to shun their truth so they do not have to face the shame imposed on them by authority. In essence, we teach our children that shunning themselves is better than living in fear of being shamed by another. I can't help but wonder ....what is the intelligence of that?! What is the fucking point?! How can we expect our children to grow up to be sincere inside themselves if we are teaching them to not be?! ...and all this for the sake of optics, for the sake of external approval, for the sake of ...hopefully fitting in.
It takes courage to know our own truth... ...it takes great courage to actually speak it... ...and it takes immense courage to actually live it!
There are thoughts percolating inside of me, about the man I allow to penetrate me. The man. The god. The ideology. The identity. The system. The dick.