This is a conversation about intimacy with ourSelves. It is a conversation about how to become so fine tuned to our own internal cues that nothing else matters. It is a conversation about paying attention to the cues as they move, value and judgement free. It is a conversation about letting go of the stories, socializations and strategies that keep us confined to a boxed-in version of who a "good woman" should be. It is a conversation about noticing and claiming the penetration of patriarchal mindsets in every nook and cranny of our existence. It is about beginning to wake up, and pay attention, differently.
There is something magical that happens when I stay actively engaged in WEL-Systems® based conversations. Because we are multifaceted and multidimensional beings, there is no template on "how to" live life to the fullest. As such, we must come to make peace with the fact that living fully is a process that we must choose… Continue reading Living as a multifaceted, multidimentional being.
Women, mothers to the creation of Life, give a shit. Because of that, it falls on us to awaken, embody and express from the matriarchal consciousness that demands we let go of what isn't working and engage DIFFERENTLY.
To know one's self, to achieve self-mastery in it's perpetual evolution and discovery, is to stay Present to the totality of what IS. Where are my own internal blinders that keep me from seeing a bigger picture? A larger context? Where do I allow my mind to take me down the rabbit hole of convenience and habit? Where do I not even notice?!
We hang on when the pain of hanging on feels greater than the perceived pain of letting go. Sometimes, the pain of letting something go feels far greater than the pain of hanging on. So we hang on to the thing that, despite our deepest desire for it to be otherwise, is already done. A… Continue reading Letting Go, Acceptance and Surrender: Why it’s all so fucking difficult
When we pretend they are the person they show the world to be, that makes us who know the truth of who they are, ladies and gentlemen, responsible for protecting the predator.
As a CODE Model Coach™, I am constantly in pursuit of my own evolution. Because of that, I trust that the people who come in my life are there as aspects of my consciousness to awaken me to a deeper layer of self-exploration yet unexplored. Recently, I found myself writing an email to a client.… Continue reading I am not a therapist: I am a CODE Model Coach™, and here’s how it’s different
It always, in all ways, starts with ME. There’s a lump in my throat as I type this, and the tears are just behind my eye lids…they don’t want to flow, they simply want to be there. There is an energetic ‘ball’ in my chest and my stomach feels activated. This is the information my… Continue reading What it takes to let go as a parent, and why we must!
Instead of teaching our children WHAT to think, let's teach them HOW to think! We have become really good at teaching (through modeling) the content of our culture to our children. Be polite and say thanks, even if you don't mean it. Otherwise, to speak the truth of your experience (not-thankful) is to be considered rude. So... we teach our children to be insincere and live in contradictory internal states so they don't offend another. We teach them to be dishonest so they can manage an external appearance labeled "polite" and "good". We teach them to shun their truth so they do not have to face the shame imposed on them by authority. In essence, we teach our children that shunning themselves is better than living in fear of being shamed by another. I can't help but wonder ....what is the intelligence of that?! What is the fucking point?! How can we expect our children to grow up to be sincere inside themselves if we are teaching them to not be?! ...and all this for the sake of optics, for the sake of external approval, for the sake of ...hopefully fitting in.
It takes courage to know our own truth... ...it takes great courage to actually speak it... ...and it takes immense courage to actually live it!