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You’re Not Here to Be Liked by Weak Men

There comes a time in every woman’s life when she’s done. Done shrinking. Done second-guessing. Done pretending. Done performing. Done being the mushy, agreeable version of herself just to appease others —especially men.

There comes a time in every woman’s life where she wakes up! And realizes that her purpose on this planet is much bigger than making men feel okay about their deeply-rooted insecurities.

And in that moment, ladies, something ancient stirs and awakens -- something wild and holy. That’s the moment she begins to become the woman who scares weak men. Fittingly, your awakening is every weak man’s worst nightmare.

This Is Not About Domination

Now, let me be clear: what I’m talking about isn’t about becoming cruel, cold or controlling. It’s not about domination, manipulation, or playing games. Quite the opposite – it’s about becoming real. It’s about becoming truth-full and no longer diluting your truth to be palatable. It’s about living congruently rather than apologizing for your existence. It’s about expanding into the ‘more’ that you know deep within is beckoning to be freed and removing the confines intended to please and appease.

This is about rooting into yourself and taking up the Space that is your birthright.

Sovereignty Is Terrifying to the Insecure

But a woman who knows who she is—who owns the immensity of her Life Force, her deep inner knowing, her unshakable boundaries, her endless pleasure, her darkest depth—is terrifying to a man who depends on her uncertainty to feel secure. Because when you no longer need his validation, you become unmanageable. Uncontrollable. Unshakable. In other words, you become sovereign.

Weak men need women who forget themSelves. They need women who bend, soothe and swallow their fire. They need a version of you that feels controllable safe for their smallness. Your magnetism is their biggest threat. Your diminishing your light feeds their bottomless darkness. Your performance allows them to keep up with Jones’ and keep calling what you have “the perfect marriage”.

Personally, I’m indifferent to what you choose for yourself because I know what I have to engage to become who I am – to keep perpetually unfolding into the more that is my birthright.

You Get to Choose

So my question to you is: Who is the woman you are here to become? Are you here to be controlled safe, or are you here to be free? You get to choose.

Will you keep explaining yourself, or will you simply tell the simple truth?
Will you keep waiting for permission, or will you simply and unapologetically claim what’s yours?
Will you fill the silence for approval, or will you simply speak what’s on your mind?
Will you blame yourself for having boundaries, or will you simply declare what’s real?
Will you continue to over-give in relationships that under-nourish you, or will you choose to nourish yourself, first?
Will you continue to mistake emotional labor for love, or will you call a spade “a spade”?
Will you keep playing mind games for life, or will you retire from the ministry of making broken men feel whole?

In that nanosecond that you let go, you have laid claim to your personal power.

What Terrifies Weak Men

And that’s what terrifies weak men— the power of your unshakable clarity. Your refusal to abandon yourself. Your refusal to settle. Your refusal to “mommy” them. Your refusal to coddle them. Your refusal to keep feeding their smallness-masked-as-power.

Here’s what people don’t say out loud: when a woman reclaims her wholeness, a certain type of man loses access to her. That man will then go on to try to shame you for making choices that align with the truth of who you are. They will call you arrogant, or masculine, or they will say you’re intimidating, impossible to please, or destined to be alone.

But when you know yourself, when you know your truth, their fear-mongering has nowhere to land. It simply ripples through your body and reinforces that which you already know -- those men were never capable of witnessing your wholeness, never mind loving you wholly. Not because you’re unlovable—but because they haven’t yet chosen to love themselves.

Love Is Not Control

Here’s another truth for ya: when you love someone, you want expansion for them. You want them to discover their essence and live from the fully blossomed and blossoming version of themselves – not the version that feels familiar to you based on your history. That’s called control, not love. Let’s get that straight!

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From Diminished to Sovereign

As many of you know, I was in an abusive relationship for seven years. Seven years of my adult life spent with a man who couldn’t see me (because I couldn’t see myself). So, I let him steal my light. I let him diminish my worth. I let him convince me that I was not “all that”.

But guess what? The nanosecond that top-down wave of new information moved through my body and informed of me what I already knew – in every fiber of my being – I am worth so much more than this shit. That’s when everything changed. That’s when I opened up internal Space to not only heal the trauma of that relationship, but to decide, for myself, what I wanted. And after two years of playing around and with a 0-tolerance for bullshit attitude, I found exactly what I was looking for.

Lucky, I guess.
Or intentional as fuck.
It all depends on your perceptual filters.

What Real Intimacy Looks Like

And guess what? When a man is secure in himself, he wants you to evolve wholeheartedly. He wants you to blossom into your full potential – not be a watered down version of yourself. He nourishes and supports you in reclaiming your wholeness – your fire, your vision, your truth. He focuses on what he knows you need and want from him and chooses to be an active participant in your journey of evolution. He values freedom and liberation above all – because he wants you to choose him, not need him. And he wants to choose you back. Day after day, moment after moment. He wants all of you.

That’s deep intimacy.

It Starts with You

And it starts with yourself.
With your unwillingness to abandon yourself.
With your unwillingness to value being chosen over being whole.
With your unwillingness to give-a-fuck what a weak man thinks of you.
With your unwillingness to flinch on your evolution.

I believe you’re not here to be liked by weak men.
You’re here to be free.

What do you believe?

Let me know below…

Hi, I’m Stela. I work with women who feel too much, think too deeply, and carry a silent ache that something’s missing. Through a body-led, science-backed process that’s been tried and tested for over 30 years, we turn toward the places culture taught you to avoid—so you can remember who you are and reclaim how you live.