A few days ago I wrote about my experiences growing up in a family and culture where domestic violence was normalized. It was hard piece for me to write and speak to, because, for the most part, what culture shuns and shames is the act of speaking out, not the violence happening itself.
Strange, isn’t it?
Nonetheless, I am here to speak to the truth of my experience and let the chips fall where they may.
Today, I am sharing this short video I created all about domestic violence and why women stay (why I stayed for seven years!).
In my latest Unapologetically Unfuckwithable group gathering, I found myself in this stream of consciousness expression that I am choosing to share with you.
I titled this: The Myth of the Intact Family, Women and Safety. Listen here.
Get help! Do it now!
If you are finding yourself trapped in a violent and abusive household (however you define that for yourself) know that you are not alone. There are people who care and who are able and willing to help. And, as always, you have got to be the catalyst of change in your own life …
The first step is always that internal boundary that says enough! When that internal boundary is reclaimed, everything from there unfurls.
For resources on this, please check out:
This podcast on the burden of silence and violence in the home.
This blog on violence and silence and it’s impact on our well-being.
This blog on acting now (do it now) as the invitation to start creating a different reality for yourself.
And finally, this blog on the answer is: live a meaningful life.
PS – violence, overt or covert, always takes a toll on us. It shows in our eyes because we become strangers to ourselves. If you feel you are in an abusive environment, I invite you to look into your eyes and see yourSelf … your essence … your being. Because no matter what the abuser(s) try to take away, they can never take away that which is scared inside each and every single one of us. If you re-awaken to that, you might just being to notice: you are worthy of a meaningful existence.
If you are having conversations that are not life-sustaining for you, I invite you to consider joining my monthly women’s gathering called Igniting Your Potential. The conversations are intended to be life-affirming and expansive; so if you feel “stuck” in any way, consider joining us next month! If it’s your first time, I invite you in as my ‘guest’ (as in, for free, because you don’t know what you don’t know … ).
If you’re called to participate, email me to join.
