How to integrate the layers upon layers of cultural conditioning that is intended to keep you small and externally referenced.

Have you ever noticed how different your internal state is from that which you present to the world? What I mean by this is that women are taught to silence our visceral truth in favour of appropriateness, politeness, and compliance with the cultural status-quo.Truth is, #allwomen are conditioned to live this way, which is why a congruent no seems to be the hardest word in the English dictionary for women to own.

The problem is that from this paradigm of the world where reality is external and fixed, choosing becomes an illusion.Think about this: if what you’re doing is choosing from what you already have, are you really choosing to manifest? Or are you choosing to comply? If you mistake choice for options, then you will be trapped in the illusion of choice, yet your life your never change.

Shame is culture's most powerful weapon because it works. In the last Igniting Your Potential monthly gathering, I found myself saying something along the lines of “parents intentionally choose shame as a tool in order to control their children's behaviour”. 

You see, that’s the fundamental lie that plagues our global cultural beliefs. Everything is peachy out there and if you feel anything but numb to all the (utterly indisputable) bullshit, then there’s something wrong with you.

As my brain starts this nonsense chatter, I notice. I realized as I'm engaging in this habitual and familiar process of “hurry up, we have to go”, the effect of that is causing my son to speed up. Yikes!The gift of giving myself permission to notice became my invitation to slow down. To mindfully and intentionally take three deep breaths before I tell him to move along. In that nanosecond, both our lives transform …

Yes, the fear of taking responsibility over our own lives is massive. In a world that conditions us to live soap opera lives, deeply committed to how “right” we are, the conversations I facilitate from the WEL-Systems paradigm become the pattern interrupt we all need to begin to notice that we are not doomed… we can, if we choose to, become the protagonists of our own lives, response-able to create the reality we are meant to be living.

But how can you make congruent choices when you don’t know how else to listen? My job is to ask you questions that will provoke you to see something you have never seen before. It is to educate you to an alternative paradigm of being so that you discover how powerful you are when you intentionally own the territory of your body and mind by getting to know who and what you are as a quantum-biological being. Science says so, why not choose to reclaim it for yourself today?

If you are interested in exploring, delving deeper into, and living from, the Truth that you are, you must give yourself permission to continuously notice things you weren't willing to notice before. I promise: everything will change. And therein lays the root of our most intimate desire and our greatest fear…

Joy is a state of being...Joy is a state of being that most people look for outside of themselves, never finding it ‘out there’ because it can only ever exist ‘in here’, where one lives.Joy is a state of being that requires no doing; it simply exists in the moment one stops and inhales the sacredness of the moment.Joy is a state of being that invites us to live fully immersed in the unknowable mystery of life.Joy is a state of being that allows us to touch the meaning of life … the grace of our own divinity and that of all of life, lived.Joy is a state of being that children know inherently well, because it is our birthright.All we have to do to be in joy is to be in a state of receptivity.But, what gets in the way?Here are a few tips, if you will, about becoming more joyful.